Building Blocks of a family

[BoneWeary Lich]

Discuss your idea of a good healthy family, with you as the father/mother of the house. Would you prefer a son or daughter and what regulations would you impose?

How would you respect their opinions and how much time would you spend enjoying their company? How would you react to such common issues as unplanned pregnancy in the home by your daughter?

Paint your picture of the ideal family. Sorry if my canvas is bare.

[disjuku]

hmm, well... for kids...

1- don't yell at your kids - I see so many parents who yell at their kids for doing more or less nothing, they do it all the time so taht the kids just don't care, and when they really DO do something wrong they won't respond to anything
2- Try to understand, realise that they ARE just kids and haven't learnt many of the ways to behave etc.
3- treat them like anyone else, make them feel like they are just as important as anyone else
4- comunicate with them, many parents will tell their kids off for doing something and the kid doesn't have a clue why what they did was wrong - you need to explain things to them like that
5- like with the pregnancy, don't get ****ty, its too late for that to happen and no doubt they have already learn't their lesson, you should probably discuss it with them and support them through it as much as you can - that will also hopefully ensrue that they feel confident to come up to you when they have a problem.

for parents-
1- make sure you are in a stable, happy relation ship before you have kids
2- if you ever do argue, make sure that you do it away from your kids

[DeadDez]

well....Ive thought about it for the past few years and ive realised that I dont want kids ever. And i dont believe in marriage...but a long term partner would be nice, just livin out life together!

Thats about as much family as i'll get lol

[disjuku]

well....Ive thought about it for the past few years and ive realised that I dont want kids ever. And i dont believe in marriage...but a long term partner would be nice, just livin out life together!

Thats about as much family as i'll get lol
but why...? :/

[DeadDez]

but why...? :/

i dunno theres a few reasons lol...i mean im 21...and theres so much i wanna do in life and i suppose having a kid would hold me back!

Another is that I look around the world today...I dont really like what I see...and I wonder if its worth bringing a child into!

And finally...well im not much of a person...im basically a waster unemployed lazy git who just gets drunk alot lol! And i sorta turned out the same way as my father.... and I wouldnt want my kids to turn out like me lol.

And marriage...I just think its a waste of money....you spend all that money, go on your honeymoon, come back and continue living life as u probably were before you got the piece of paper.

[disjuku]

hmm...

I dissagree with the kid holding you back, sure, its going to change things a lot, but its something on its own...

And yeah, the world can be kinda nasty sometimes, but in general its not too bad (well, given where you are in the world I guess...)

I guess it comes down to what you want in life etc :/ I have never even contemplated not having children and getting married :/

[DukeOfChaos]

I've thought about having kids a few times, mostly in school discussions like what would you name your kids if you had them, and I really am split 50/50 between having kids and not. I think if I had a kid though I would want a daughter.

[Kingcrazygenius]

I want a daughter too, and raise her to be a destroyer of men.

[HolyCreep]

Only 1 rule needed:
Teach by example

If you do the right things most of the times, your children cannot be too bad. If you don't, you have no reason to expect them to be any better.